Thursday, April 25, 2013

Defining Enough

                I’m downsizing.
                For about two years, I’ve been working on weeding out my life, and daydreaming about just plowing the whole field and starting over. Not really, but on the times that I am forced to consider what would happen if, oh, say a hurricane blew my house away and there are things I would be very upset over loosing – mostly those that are sentimental and irreplaceable. But a secret part of me has always wondered if I wouldn’t be secretly relieved to be parted with the extra things that just keep hanging around.
                I’ve often thought it would be easier to get rid of things if I had a good place for them to go and wasn’t just dropping of boxes at a thrift shop. For instance, my grandfather used to give me a porcelain doll each year. I love them. They’re beautiful and I love that he picked them out himself. But right now, they’re grouped together on the old record player and I teasingly call them the doll army. I might keep one for the sentimentality, but do I need an army of them?
                The sentimentality issue lingers because I always wanted something that belonged to my mother when she was a child. Because she was a navy-brat, she got rid of her things as she got older. I vowed I would keep some things for my children. So I kept my favorite toys and they’ve been sitting in boxes in the top of my closet. Again. I could keep a few things. I don’t need boxes of them. My children might not even like old toys anyway.
                But they linger there as I bounce back and forth in my mind of what to do. I’ve heard all the arguments. “They might be worth something. Your kids might like them. They don’t make things good-quality anymore.” The list goes on and on and I must admit, it sounds pretty good to just let them sit there, awaiting future glory.
                Unless I’m feeling guilty because it’s things I don’t use. Or overwhelmed because I have to figure out what to do with it. And what about the things that I’ve hung onto because someone gave them to me, but they’re not particularly sentimental? It’s guilt that keeps them around. What about all the time I spend cleaning the things I don’t use?
                And what about all the places in the Bible where it talks about not storing up things on earth, and selling your things to help the poor? What about all the people in the world who have even less than I do, who live off of next to nothing? How do they fit into this picture?
                I can’t claim to have all the answers yet, but lately the questions have been coming up more and more. I have two boxes of things I haven’t parted with, simply because I don’t want to just dump them. I needed a cause to rally up my courage to make the leap.
                Last week while cleaning the church, I stumbled on the book, “Enough” and recognized the title, though I couldn’t remember who had recommended it to me or when they had done so. It’s going to take some further investigation before I accept anything as “Bible doctrine” but much of what he says resonates with me. And helps relieve my fears about parting with things. Right now I have just enough to cover my bills and basic expenses. But it is enough and more than most of the world has. Although by the book’s standard – I’m that “poor” young woman who is one large medical expense or broken car away from going below. But for right now – that is enough.
So while I was cleaning the church, I was thinking about a friend of mine whom I used to go to church with. She’s recently been diagnosed with cancer. Kaitlyn is a sweet girl and not long graduated out of highschool. I was thinking about how I could support her while she goes through chemo and God brought to mind that I could sell some of my things in a garage sale. I live a few hours from her so I don’t think I could set one up effectively but I wrote her mother to see if anyone was planning one. And her sister had mentioned it.
So. There it is. My answer. My cause. My justification for parting with even those nice things that I enjoy that people gave me, but they just don’t seem to fit with where I want to take my life. So.
Life-simplifying, step one, begun: Looking at my possessions with new eyes. Will this do more good for me, or Kaitlyn?

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